I don't write often but had to login to add my 2¢ in since I very much agree with this post (and several others of Cheezer’s that I've seen).
I am also a higher level player (400+) and often feel conflicted about my 'friends'. Honestly, I am very happy with a large group of the real playing friends that I have. Whether I've been with them for over a year, or they are newer, I have very many friends that play the way that I do and make the game very enjoyable, and the quests much more manageable.
That being said, my friend list continues to dwindle due to inactive and very infrequent players. Add to that players that I delete for not playing weapons during a boss fight that they invited me too.
But there are actions that also indicate to me that the way I think about this game is not compatible with some other players. Aside from exploring the rooms themselves, there are other things that I wish all players, but especially newer players would consider:
Just because someone is a higher level than you, does not mean that they are “rich.” Yes, people have told me that I’m “rich” in the game and must have lots of diamonds to throw around in order to complete quests and buy chests. I’m not! I’ve never used real money on this game (for myriad stubborn reasons). Everything I’ve gotten has been earned playing rooms, banishing monsters and with the help of generous friends (that I try to repay in kind). To date, I think I have bought a whopping 9 chests.
As a corollary of not being rich in MM, I very rarely squander diamonds in order to drop the counter. Therefore, I have only 10 gifts to give every day JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. I reserve those gifts to repay people that help me with the collection items on my wish list. If I have extra slots, I entertain requests for a trade and will take lesser but helpful items in order to help someone out with their wish list. After that, I have a posse of loyal lower-level players that I know are working through quests that I help without any expectation of a return gift.
So if you offer a trade, I may or may not be up for it depending on my gift volume. I may have to wait awhile to respond to your request, to see if I’ll have room for a trade. I’ve also been flipping zodiac gifts still for people finishing those quests.
As a scientist I give out tips and chargers freely to anyone who leaves me a note. I keep a mental note of those who come to help me often (even in this small way), and that is how I remember to keep an eye out for them in future too as a loyal friend. Developing that relationship takes time. But I most certainly do not need an invitation to check out someone’s wish list. I don’t know who ever started that, but it’s not a good idea in my book. Other people don’t mind it though, so…
It’s especially bad to me when I get this request and am just left with some tips and/or a charger or a collection item that I have absolutely no use for (dozens in inventory). It often happens that I do not have items to give on my friends’ wish lists when I am trying to repay them. That’s when I search their collections for items that they are low on: holes, single-digit inventory, or even items for the collections that they seem to enjoy charging the most. If someone likes flares and has charged a flare-gathering collection 200 times, I help them there. I know they will use it eventually. For many, it’s collection 60. I wish more people took the time.
As I said, everyone plays differently, and I know the game can be very difficult for lower-level people trying to make their way up. I have not forgotten what it’s like. But I have only ever once asked a high-level friend for a gift: I was ripping my hair out over the Heart of Africa quest for a couple of months and could not progress. I was playing the room well into expert level and still did not find one compass. I finally swallowed my pride and asked my highest-level friend (that I had been visiting and tipping daily for months) if there is anything she would consider trading for a compass to help me past this. She generously gave me 5. I truly believe in helping all my friends like that if I can, but I find it hard to respect those who don’t hesitate to ask without establishing some relationship of loyalty and/or offering a fair trade.
While I’m still cautious to hit the X, I used to hesitate more in deleting people. But now I realize that you have to have friends that play the game in a way that is compatible with you, or else it just causes stress. I simply don’t want to see someone’s name pop up on my wall that annoys me. They have other friends and can find more easily on Facebook.
In the old days, I was a generous MG player looking for friends to throw ikebana and flying monkeys at. I can’t do that much now, so I hope people understand.
I’ve been looking for more friends that play like me. I’ve never put my code on Facebook, and mostly finds new friends now through other friends I trust. If you get what I’m saying and could use another friend, PM me your friend code.